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Tuesday, 14 July 2015 16:50

Asking for Help

Written by  Lynne Morris
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One of the hardest things for anyone to do, is admit they need help.  It doesn't matter if you have a disability or not, if you feel like a burden asking for help, it's going to stop you asking.

I am currently attempting to change my mind set and accept that I am going blind.   I am fiercely independent and would rather struggle than feel like a fool.  Daft isn't it? I am my own worst enemy.   Like I said we all have it and it's called PRIDE / DIGNITY. ( or stupidity?)  :-p

The trouble with struggling instead of asking, is that it really doesn't help your self esteem or confidence, especially if you're me and you're hard on yourself all the time!  (Daft to boot)

There are many times where I have been in tears or near tears because I push myself to breaking point rather than ask!

The point of this blog is to ask you lovely readers that if you're out with someone who has a disability like I have,  please try and think ahead about where you're going and how that might affect this person.   I know it's not your responsibility but it could be the tiniest thought in advance that could change this persons day from being anxiety and tension riddled because believe me that's always there from the word go, to being the best day full of happiness, smiles and fond memories not nightmares!

It's these tiny thoughts that could change our outlook on going out.  I for one, would rather isolate myself than go through seven types of hell just to try and fit in.  Hence,  my trying to change my mind set. :)

You don't need to go out of your way and make it obvious to the person you're with but a friendly linking arm goes a long way.........

Think of it like driving a car, you have to think ahead on your route,  think of other road users and what they might be doing.  You probably don't notice you're  doing it because it becomes second nature. 

I know some of you might be worried that you'll be over the top if you ask if we need help all the time.  Especially with me as my disabilities  aren't obvious to most unless you see the long white stick I use. :)  

I merely suggest that if you know this person and the difficulties they have, for example, imagine having very little hearing or vision and walking into a very busy place?   How would you feel? 

When you have Usher Syndrome changing light levels are a problem as it takes us time to adjust, we might need help.   Also,  if you're out with this person and they've never been to the place before (remember ĺimited vision and hearing) How would you feel? 

Thank you for taking the time to read :)

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